Phone Calls vs Texting
By Tamika Burgess
The modern man has evolved but when it comes to communication, they are still back in the cave man era. Guys do not like to talk on the phone. These days, it’s all about texting. Yes texting is fast and convenient, but in a relationship – especially in NYC where “out-of-sight equals out-of-mind”- phone calls are essential.
A phone conversation is important to women because we want to hear vocal tones, laughs, passion, and intensity and that only comes across via a phone conversation. Texting is one dimensional. A phone call allows us to feel more connected to that guy on the other end of the call. And if the conversation is good, it can be a memorable experience for both sides, a foundation needed for a solid relationship.
I am definitely not the only woman thinking this. I’ve had lots of conversations with girlfriends. Guys not picking up the phone is a constant point of frustration for us. Other women have even taken this gripe to Twitter. One Tweeter went so far as to say men text because they are incapable of having a mature phone conversation. I wouldn’t go that far but it’s possible.
Too much texting can lead to communication problems in a relationship. There is no emotion in a text message. A lot of what is texted is left up to the reader’s interpretation. And if they are not reading the message the way it was intended by the sender, that can cause confusion. It can also lead to unnecessary arguments. So it’s important for Guys to realize that certain topics need to be talked about over the phone.
On the other hand there are times when text messaging has it benefits. It’s an easy way to send a quick message. Texting your significant other a simple “Good Morning” or “Good Night” is a nice way to let them know you’re thinking of them and every woman loves that. Texting also allows you and your mate to exchange inside jokes and maintain a special connection throughout the day with random thoughts you share with each other. It can actually turn into something fun that you each find yourselves looking forward to.
There is good and bad to both methods of communications. And too much of one method can be annoying. Guys cannot just assume that only communicating via text is acceptable, because it’s not. At one point or another, their girlfriend will get bothered by it and it will become a problem. And that doesn’t mean they should assume we want a phone call at all hours of the day either. There has to be a balance of both.
There may be some girlfriends that say they don’t mind only communicating through text messages, but guys trust me. Taking the time to call her will make such a difference in your relationship and in how she sees you. What may seem like an insignificant thing means the world to your girlfriend and can only improve the communication in your relationship.