By: Stacy Liberatore
New Yorkers are notoriously quick to move on. We have the attention span of a gnat. If you don’t keep us interested, we move onto a new person.
And even if you’re up to date three, don’t assume you won the prize. You’re only half way there. Getting her interested is easy, but keeping her interested is the hard part.
As a bartender, I see guys buzzing around girls all night. NYC bars are Ground Zero when it comes to getting a girl’s attention. If you’re up for the challenge, here is my Top-10 list for how to keep any City girl interested in you for more than a night.
Don’t be an Open Book
If you know the middle and ending to a book, you probably won’t finish it. Don’t let her know everything about you, be mysterious and intriguing. Obviously don’t put up a wall, but don’t lay all your cards out on the table either.
Chivalry isn’t Dead
Prince Charming always gets the girl in the end and it’s no different in real life. Show her you can be a knight in shining armor and she just might remove her armor for a night. Women love to be swept of their feet. Open the door for her, pull her chair out, surprise her with flowers. Treat her like she is special.
Communication is Key
You don’t have to overload her with texts or calls, but keeping in contact with her lets her know you’re interested without having to put it in black and white. If you ignore her, trust me, she will look for attention elsewhere. Out of sight out of mind.
Laughter Makes the World go Round
Just as they say, “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach,” well the way to a girl’s heart is making her laugh. Keep her laughing and you’ll keep her around.
Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
Too much of a good thing is bad for you; same goes for seeing her all of the time. Give her a chance to miss you. But don’t be too distant or she just might let someone else fill the void.
Be a Proud Peacock
You might find this hard to believe, but many pretty women lack confidence. We don’t now want to take on your load too.Put your man pants on and show her you’re secure with who you are. But be careful not to be cocky- know the difference between the two.
Slow and Steady Wins the Race
If you’re into her, don’t try to hit a home run right off the bat. By rounding a few bases, she’ll think you are more interested in what she’s about and not just what she has.
Our Hearts are not Toys
The biggest turn off is a guy who plays games. If you say you will call her, pick up the phone. And if you are really interested, throw away your little black book.
We enjoy a good chase just as you do. Give us a little run for our money by keeping us guessing. But don’t get to far ahead of us or we’ll just give up.
This is the most important thing for you to remember. You caught our attention because we wanted to get to know you, not an alter ego. Let your the real you be the reason we fall for you.