Get the Guy to Buy you Dinner
by Amber Castello
I’m going to tell you how to get free dinners from guys. If you’re a guy, you should read this so you know how to not get used. If you’re a girl, you should read this so you can find some extra spending money – cash saved from buying yourself dinner.
But first, let me tell you my story. I am 32 years old, blonde, hot and after a glass of wine, I can pretty much start up a conversation with just about anyone. I also have a nice rack. But it’s okay if you’re a size 32B. If you follow my tips, you too can get free dinners and you don’t have to put out.
So how do you get free dinners? Number one, you have to pick cools places where tourists hang out. Why? Because usually suckers hang out there. Guys that hang out at tourist spots want to meet a real New Yorker, so when they meet me (and hopefully you), they are in a hurry to woo you. That means, they want to buy you dinner.
Want proof? Let me tell you my Capital Grill story, located on 42nd Street and Lex. For those who aren’t New Yorkers, this is prime tourist real estate.
It was a Tuesday night and I looked hot after a full day of sales meetings. I wanted to put my sexy suit to use after those meetings were over, so I headed to a place where men with expense accounts go for dinner.
After a glass of wine that I bought myself, I started talking to a gentleman. I later found out he was married, but that’s okay because he was a nice person to talk to and had an expense account. He treated me to a glass of wine, and it didn’t take long before he started opening up about when he met his wife. He told me about their struggles and how they had no money when they started out.
It was enjoyable conversation as we jockeyed for position at the bar to grab a bite to eat for dinner. Roughly 30-minutes later of listening to his life story, in walked Bill – a 75-year-old man wearing a traditional Southern suit and a University of Texas pin.
So how do you identify which men will buy you the dinner? Pay attention to the details. In that situation, I paid attention to the University of Texas pin, commented on it with a flirtatious smile, then leaned in and touched his tie.
He bit. He was on the line and dinner was within my grasp.
Here is tip number one – pay attention to the key players. If you want a free dinner, you need to identify men by themselves, wearing a suit. An accent will increase your odds, or an obvious sign that they are from another city or country.
Tip number two – don’t forget who brings you to the dance. In the above story, I never left out the married man. In fact, I invited the married man into the group and conversation. Be a team player if you want to get free food.
Tip number three – Let the leading man lead. This is a good tip that most women don’t follow. In the case with our Texan Bill, he asked me, “What wine do you want?” I said, “you look like a well-traveled man, so I’ll let you pick your favorite. Or should I call over the sommelier?”
Men who buy dinner typically are leaders. They are the ones who are closing the deal and bringing in the money. You don’t want to challenge a leader if you want a free meal. Many New York women are type-A and that is their mistake. They want to show they can buy their own dinner. Good for them.
Tip number four – don’t be afraid to order what you want. A man like this wants a confident woman who knows what she wants. You secretly are the one in charge. Treat yourself, you deserve it. In the case with Bill, I ordered a $50 steak.
Women will criticize, men will scoff, but it’s okay. I don’t feel guilty. I met some great new people, we had a great conversation, learned something new about life and of course, I got a great dinner out of it without paying a dime.